Is it because they haven't understood that I have no hair. Is it because that they forget? Or is it something else?
At the swimming pool, my 9 year old declared she liked drying her hair with the swimming pool machines. She then said why don't you try it mum?
I matter of factly told her, that the reason I don't dry my hair like that, is that I do not have any hair to dry. She said "oh ok" and carried on with her business.
No issue, no confusion, just an "oh ok!"
In a similar fashion, the other day my 5 year old asked if she could brush my hair. I said that it wasn't possible, as I had no hair. Just like the elder one, she said "oh" and just carried on.
I find it very cute that they want to include me in their hair fun activities and that, for a moment, they don't understand that the request they are making is not possible. It reminds me that being hairless does not define me and that it really isn't something that my children think about nor worry about.
There is no taboo on the subject and my interpretation is that my bald head is irrelevant to them, as it should be. They see me like they see themselves, and they include me in their hair fun and allow me to define the exclusion rules not them.
I like being included even though I can't actually be. But the mere fact that I am asked is very warming.
Kids you rock and I love you for seeing me through your lens.
I like being included even though I can't actually be. But the mere fact that I am asked is very warming.
Kids you rock and I love you for seeing me through your lens.
awww..I love this post. My fave about your hair (or no hair) so far.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree..I am with your kids..I forget you have no hair all the time (aka dry shampoo as a gift, shopping at Walmart for shampoo together etc..)
For me hair would just be an accessory to your beautiful eyes, perfect body, great fashion sense, great makeup and big heart.
Makes no difference and I forget all the time; especially now that you are so open about it.
xoxooxoxoxoxoxox
Lauren Kate
me again!
ReplyDeleteYou have really taught me the value of :
When you come to the table truly who you are with openess and honesty...people react to us in that same manner. If you accept yourself for who you are-others will do the same"
Wheras two years ago seeing a friend completely bald could have stressed me out a little now its a serious non event in life (like grocery shopping with a good friend for some bread or something)
Lauren
Love this post! Love how you know who you are and don't worry about the rest!
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