Are you asking right question?

One of my lovely friends sent me a blog the other day which I enjoyed reading.

It suggested that rather than going home and asking your spouse "How are you?" and "How was your day", why not try something different.

This can be particulary useful if your spouses are operating in different worlds, eg they are staying at home verus working in a corporate environment all day, or if they have been looking after a sick parent etc.

You see the question "How are you?" is very vague. In a given day, it is possible to answer many things, for example, you could answer, I had a moment where I was angry, another moment where I laughed so much I cried, another where I felt hurt and the list goes on. It is possible to feel many emotions in an 8 hour span, especially if you are the one at home looking after a tiny baby with colic!!

So here was the proposal of what other questons you can ask to understand your spouses day.

When did you feel loved today?
When did you feel lonely?
What did I do today that made you feel appreciated?
What did I say that made you feel unnoticed?
What can I do to help you right now?

So give it a try and let us know how it goes.