So why suddenly am I meeting these people?
Were they always there? Did I not see them before? Or is it that just suddenly they have appeared?
I think a lot has got to do with being open. I have started to understand, that telling people what's going on in your life, builds bridges very quickly. No one really likes the perfect mother, the perfect family, the beautifully organized household or the successful businesswoman. People enjoy each others imperfections, peoples struggles and peoples daily life drama. So as I meet new people I have begun disclosing, some of the stuff in my life, that is not quite picture perfect. And what I am finding, is a lot of people with similar stories and new ways of doing things.
Even better, what I am finding is fun, fascinating and super interesting.
So at the pool today, I spontaneously invited a family over for lunch. Why? Because in a 10 minute exchange, we discovered that our daughters who were the same age, were living with the similar difficulties. A condition that neither of us understood very well yet we both had found different solutions that were working for them.
So spontaneously we agreed to have lunch together and discuss more. This was only because I have taken a bit of plunge and decided that disclosing about me and understanding that others can help, has really opened up a new kind of conversation and better still a whole load of wonderful people, I would have previously ignored, whilst I read my book!
I am quite excited by this revelation, I wonder where it will take me?
So what about you? Are you the one volunteering information? Building that bridge?
Or like me, are the one with your nose struck in a book?
Let me know.
I think a lot has got to do with being open. I have started to understand, that telling people what's going on in your life, builds bridges very quickly. No one really likes the perfect mother, the perfect family, the beautifully organized household or the successful businesswoman. People enjoy each others imperfections, peoples struggles and peoples daily life drama. So as I meet new people I have begun disclosing, some of the stuff in my life, that is not quite picture perfect. And what I am finding, is a lot of people with similar stories and new ways of doing things.
Even better, what I am finding is fun, fascinating and super interesting.
So at the pool today, I spontaneously invited a family over for lunch. Why? Because in a 10 minute exchange, we discovered that our daughters who were the same age, were living with the similar difficulties. A condition that neither of us understood very well yet we both had found different solutions that were working for them.
So spontaneously we agreed to have lunch together and discuss more. This was only because I have taken a bit of plunge and decided that disclosing about me and understanding that others can help, has really opened up a new kind of conversation and better still a whole load of wonderful people, I would have previously ignored, whilst I read my book!
I am quite excited by this revelation, I wonder where it will take me?
So what about you? Are you the one volunteering information? Building that bridge?
Or like me, are the one with your nose struck in a book?
Let me know.
I personally do have my nose stuck in a book all the time..but when I come up for air once in a while can be very open.
ReplyDeleteNot so much with strangers or new people, I put little time into getting to know new people. I save my energy for those I feel an instant click with-it's instinct for me.
But the people I do know I put alot of time into hearing them, sharing with them and being open.
I too have had a journey in this area. I was always open but not at the level where it really hurt. I kept the "real" things for me and shared the easier things often.
Now I do both and I cannot even begin to tell you how it has deepned my marriage, my friendships and my parenting.
Love,
Lauren Kate