Just one night together

Life is full when you have two little ones. I mean let's be clear, we are the ones filling it up. I also would not have it any other way. So this fullness is more of an observation, not a complaint.

Swimming lessons, skating lessons, gym classes, ski weekends, play dates, sleep overs. We are, like most parents I know, trying to expose our kids to many things. At the same time, also ensuring they get the social interaction they so desperately want, on top of all this.

Now let's not forget, that in addition to all this, the parents, namely us, are also scrambling for a hobby. Just one night out is all we need. But then there are two of us. So in a flash, the week is packed to the brim.

So back to my point. Life is full.

Within this fully planned week, I really try to keep one evening free. Free of any commitments. This way we can do whatever we like, together. Not too much to ask is it?

In general, we are pretty successful at this, and I think we all need it.

However this week, it didn't happen, that one precious evening, got planned for someone. Now in the grand scheme of things, this was not a problem. But it was. I was not happy about this.

Now I didn't make a fuss about it at the time, as it felt unfair to stop this activity for the one who clearly wanted to partake. Yet it made me grumpy.

I was not grumpy because this person was missing. I was grumpy because I love being together and I had mentally prepared for our cosy evening together. I knew what we were going to do and it was treats all round. Yet with one person missing it was not the same. 

So I let it pass, but I realized how important it is for me to have this one free evening with all of us together.

Surely me wanting this is a good thing. Right?

Do any of you have tips on how to protect what's important? 

Please share.